Don’t Betray Yourself

Don’t Betray Yourself to Please Someone Else

From a young age, many of us learned to survive by betraying ourselves. We put others’ needs above our own, minimized our desires, and justified why their wants were more important. We were told that prioritizing ourselves was selfish.

At its core, this was about survival. We longed to belong, to feel loved, to be accepted. But in the process, we were conditioned—socially and culturally—not to belong to or with ourselves.

Over time, this survival strategy leaves us feeling alone and empty. When we betray ourselves repeatedly, the disconnection grows. We stop listening to our inner voice and lose touch with what truly matters to us.

Yes, this realization is heavy and daunting. It can feel discouraging to see how deeply ingrained these patterns are. But here’s the truth: **you can choose something different.**

Belonging within yourself is worth the risk of stepping into the unknown. Reclaiming your voice and honoring your needs isn’t selfish—it’s revolutionary. It’s how you create a life that feels aligned and whole.

Start small. Begin by asking yourself:

- What do I truly need in this moment?

- What am I saying "yes" to, and is it aligned with my values?

- How can I honor myself today?

Each time you choose yourself, you build a bridge back to belonging within. And that belonging is the foundation for authentic, meaningful connections with others.

You’re not here to betray yourself to survive. You’re here to thrive—and that starts with you.

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Rebekah Joy LaRobardiere

November 19, 2024

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